Babdou: You know what? The relationship between husband and wife is the foundation of parenting
Babudou (China) Children's Products Co., Ltd. believes that every child grows up watching the back of their parents, and properly handles the relationship between husband and wife, because a good husband and wife relationship is better than a lot of education. Jia Nailiang's role in "Composite Master" has attracted many audiences. On the surface, he is a compound master of teasing people, but in reality, he is a patient with a severe phobia of choices. What is a phobia of choice? In short, when someone asks him what he wants to eat, he gets sick ... Even the question of whether to drink tea or water today makes him feel very uncomfortable. How did Li Juan get this disease? What kind of environment made him suffer from severe phobia of choices? In fact, due to his parents and the circumstances of his childhood, he was always forced to make choices! In fact, Li Duan knew that the relationship between his parents was not good at all, and he always quarreled behind his back when he was a child, but he pretended to be very affectionate in front of Li Duan. Li Duan knew all this, but pretended not to know. As a child, he always naively hoped that his parents would one day also get along.
So, Li Shu forced himself to accompany them to act, just like that, Li Shuo, who had such a successful career, suffered from severe choice phobia, and over time, the emotions that piled up made Li Shu fall into the abyss of depression, and his first love girlfriend broke up with him because of this factor.
In the face of his parents who have been quarreling for many years, such a bad family environment, Li Wei still hopes that his parents can reconcile as before. Therefore, his parents staged a harmonious scene in front of him, and Li Jue could only cooperate, and he had no other choice. The relationship between parents is not harmonious, the family environment is depressed, and over time it becomes a scar in the child's heart, and the child will suppress emotions, refuse to communicate, and the personality will go to extremes.
Harmonious family relationships and parental relationships will improve the child's personality, help the child form a sense of self-worth, and demonstrate a healthy model of intimate relationship and interpersonal communication for the child.
(1) The relationship between husband and wife affects the establishment of children's sense of security
For young children, parents are their whole world. If the parents are arguing and indifferent, the child may feel the end of the world. When children are very young, they are not able to distinguish between their own behavior and the environment, and often attribute the conflict between parents to their own bad and unwell-behaved, resulting in great anxiety and guilt. With a good relationship between husband and wife, children will have enough security and can better develop themselves in the process of growth. In this sense, a stable relationship between husband and wife is the greatest and best gift for a child.
(2) Don't overinvest your energy in your children If one
of the spouses ignores the relationship and puts too much attention on the child, the pressure on the child will be very great. In 1980, Professor Moseley of the University of Leicester showed that if the relationship between the husband and wife is not good, one of the husband and wife pays too much attention to the child, the child will feel the pressure multiplied, and may even use truancy, school weariness, anxiety, depression and other ways to adjust the relationship between parents.
(3) Set an example for children
Love and separation are two eternal themes in life. Raising a child is ultimately about pushing the child out of the house so that he can live independently. In the future, like his parents, he will have his own partner and will have his own children. Love is transmitted in such a cycle. If one of the spouses and the child (especially the mother and son) are too close and alienate the other half, then when the child leaves the family, the couple will be extremely reluctant, and even intentionally or unintentionally affect the harmonious relationship of the child's future family.
So in a healthy family system, the relationship between husband and wife must be the most important position in the family. Babu Bean reminds that the most important thing is the environment in which both parents give their children a friendly upbringing: so that children who grow up in an atmosphere can face many tribulations and challenges in the world calmly.