Bodbog: Do you know? The marital relationship is the foundation of parenting.

　　 Bodbog (China) Children’s Products Co., Ltd. It is widely believed that every child grows up by watching their parents’ backs; therefore, maintaining a healthy marital relationship is paramount, for a good marriage speaks louder than any amount of formal education. Jia Nai-liang’s portrayal in “The Master of Reconciliation” has won him a devoted fan base. On the surface, he plays the role of a charming yet mischievous reconciliation expert—but in reality, he is a patient suffering from severe decision paralysis. What exactly is decision paralysis? Simply put, as soon as someone asks him what he’d like to eat, he immediately breaks down… even something as trivial as deciding whether to drink tea or water can leave him feeling deeply agitated. How did Li Duan develop this condition? And what kind of environment led him to suffer from such severe decision paralysis? In fact, it all stems from his parents and the circumstances of his childhood: he was constantly forced to make choices. Li Duan knew full well that his parents’ relationship was far from harmonious—during his early years, they were always arguing behind closed doors, yet they would put on a show of loving affection right in front of him. Despite knowing the truth, Li Duan chose to pretend he didn’t. As a child, he naively hoped that one day his parents would finally get along.

　　And so, Li Duan forced himself to go along with their act. In this way, despite his remarkable career success, Li Duan developed a severe fear of making choices. Over time, the mounting emotional pressure plunged him into a deep depression, ultimately leading his first love to break up with him.
　　Despite his parents’ constant bickering and the toxic atmosphere at home, Li Duan still hopes they can reconcile and restore their relationship to what it once was. So, whenever his parents are around him, they put on a show of perfect harmony—though Li Duan has no choice but to go along with it. When parental relationships are strained and the home environment is stifling, such conditions can leave a lasting emotional scar on a child. Over time, the child may suppress their feelings, withdraw from communication, and develop an extreme or rigid personality.
　　Harmonious family and parental relationships foster a well-rounded personality in children, help them develop a sense of self-worth, and serve as a healthy model for intimate relationships and interpersonal interactions.
　　① The marital relationship affects the establishment of a child’s sense of security.
　　To young children, their parents are their entire world. When parents argue or grow distant, a child may feel as though the world is ending. At such a tender age, children are not yet able to distinguish between their own behavior and the broader environment; they often blame themselves for their parents’ conflicts, believing they are “not good” or “not well-behaved,” which can lead to profound anxiety and feelings of guilt. Only when the marital relationship is healthy can children feel secure enough to thrive and develop their full potential as they grow. In this sense, a stable marriage is the greatest and most precious gift parents can give their children.
　　② Do not devote excessive energy to your child.
　　When one spouse neglects the marital relationship and devotes excessive attention to the children, the children can experience substantial stress. A 1980 study by Professor Mosley at the University of Leicester demonstrated that if the marital relationship is strained and one partner places too much focus on the children, the children’s stress levels can double—and they may even respond by skipping school, developing aversion to learning, or experiencing anxiety and depression in an attempt to “adjust” the parents’ relationship.
　　③ Set a good example for your child
　　Love and separation are two enduring themes of life. Raising children ultimately means guiding them out of the family nest, so they can live independently and take charge of their own lives. In time, they will follow in their parents’ footsteps: they will have partners of their own and raise their own children. It is within this cyclical dynamic that love is passed on. Yet if one partner becomes overly close to the child—especially a mother and her son—at the expense of the other, then when the child eventually leaves home, the couple may find it unbearably hard to let go, and may even unconsciously or deliberately undermine the harmony of the child’s future family life.
　　Therefore, in a healthy family system, the marital relationship must occupy the most important position in the family. Bodbog reminds us that the most important thing is for both parents to provide a loving and nurturing environment for their children: in such an atmosphere, children can face many hardships and challenges in life with peace of mind.